Just Say It! Things New Mom’s Won’t Say OUT LOUD but Want To.
Here is the deal, as a new mom you are completely and utterly overwhelmed, your emotions are a roller-coaster not to mention your hormones, you are confused and sleep deprived and often times you just want to cry. And as a former new mom I also know there are so many rules and expectations about how you are supposed to feel. And there are rules and expectations on things you are supposed to say like… “I am so happy” or “This is the best thing that has ever happened to me” or “I love my baby sooo much” or “My life finally feels complete”
This isn’t a post about the expected sayings and feelings nor is this a post about judgment. In fact it is the exact opposite of that. These are things you new mom’s wont say but certainly wish you could. Imagine the judgement, imagine the glares, imagine the world casting their opinion on you… if you ever said these things!! Well today I am giving you the freedom to feel and to speak what you really want to!
I asked 15 mom’s this question: “What things wouldn’t you say as a new mother but wanted to?” Here are the top 4 answers given by former new mom’s, several mothers of newborns, a few mothers of school aged children and one mother of a college student.
And the survey says…. Things New Mom’s Wont Say
WHAT DID I DO TO MY LIFE?
This was the most popular response! And rightfully so. Being a new mother makes you questions what exactly you were thinking when you decided to bring a child into this world. You know have this human whom you are responsible for TWENTY FOUR HOURS A DAY. SEVEN DAYS A WEEK. Kids are a crazy addition to your life and they do not ease their way in! Life changes overnight. It’s okay to wonder what you were thinking!
I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO BE PARENT OR WHAT I AM DOING
Yah, none of us actually do. In fact there is no one I know who can say with certainty they know what they are doing when it comes to parenting. Books, blog posts, internet articles and friends can give you advice until you are blue in the face… but you still won’t know what you are doing. No one really does. Rest assured you are not alone. And if you figure out how to “parent” please let me know ASAP. I still don’ t know what I am doing and I am four years in.
DO I EVEN LIKE THIS KID?
Sometimes you won’t. Sometimes you will. You and I know you will always love them. But sometimes you do wonder if you even like this new baby you are to care for, nourish with love and provide for. I mean all they do is cry, yell and eat. Do they even like me? Yes they do…. promise.
CAN I TAKE THEM BACK?
You are welcome to check your hospitals return policy but when I checked mine they didn’t have one! I was stuck with him. But there were so many days I wondered why the hospital would send me home with this baby as I had no idea what I was doing and surely someone else was better equipped to handle him. Plus, he didn’t seem very happy to be at home… maybe we wanted to go back also! Fight the urge! Ha. You will, at some point, never want him to leave your side… just wait for it!
In all seriousness… you are okay mama. Being a new parent is TOUGH. I get it. And I also know that you can feel overwhelmed and have these thoughts and then the guilt of feeling them takes over. Let it go. You are doing great! Parenting is a journey… not a destination.
What are some of the things you have wanted to say… but never did? Leave them in the comments below!
Until Next Time,